By Joan Orr M.Sc.

A new puppy! What fun! The whole family can (and should) be involved with the care and training of the puppy. Kids can help with the puppy under supervision.

Clicker training is the best and safest training method for your puppy and your children. For more information and many articles about clicker training visit Clicker training is a hands-off method so little fingers don’t get painful nips from razor sharp puppy teeth and there is no physical strength required.

Start Training Right Away

Start training your puppy as soon as you get him home. Your puppy can learn to say please by sitting no matter how young he is. At dinner time before you feed the puppy, have a 2 minute training session. Hold a piece of food over the puppy’s nose and move it slowly backwards towards his tail so his head comes up and he eventually sits. Click (or say “yes!”) and give him the food as soon as his rear end touches the ground. Don’t push his rear end down or pull up on his collar, just let him learn on his own and have a positive experience with the joy of learning. Repeat ten times and then have the puppy sit to receive the remainder of his food from the bowl. At the next meal repeat this, but wait 1 second from the time he sits to give him the food. Say the word “sit” as soon as you are sure he is going to sit. At the next meal have him sit and wait between 1 and 3 seconds. Gradually increase the time adding 1 second at a time until the puppy voluntarily sits and waits for his food and you no longer need to hold the food over his nose. Now that the puppy has learned basic self-control around food, the kids can start to help with feeding and training the puppy.

Age 5 and under

Children in this age range must be supervised at all times around the puppy and any other dog. By supervision, we mean the YOU ARE RIGHT THERE actively engaging with the child and the puppy. At this age child can participate in training by dropping a treat on the floor for the puppy every time you click. This teaches the puppy to have self control around even the smallest family members.

Age 6-12

Kids in this age range can begin to work independently with the puppy under adult supervision once the puppy understands basic cues and can exercise self-control in waiting for the child to give or toss the treat. Kids can be excellent dog trainers if given the chance. The basic steps in training are: 1) get the behaviour (e.g. hold a treat over the puppy’s nose until he sits; 2) reward the puppy right away so he knows he did the right thing; 3) give the behaviour a name so the puppy learns to associate a word (or hand signal) with the action. Say “sit” as the puppy is sitting 20 times and then try saying the word “sit” before he sits to see if he understands. There is no point in saying a word to a puppy that he doesn’t understandIf your puppy is running away from you and you run after him shouting “Here Rover”, he learns that “Here Rover” means run away. Lots of people have taught their dogs to run away using this method! Only call your puppy to you when you know he is coming already and then give him a great treat or play a fun game when he gets to you. Kids can learn these simple training principles and be rewarded with a puppy that loves to follow their instructions.

Age 12-16

Older kids can take greater responsibility for the care and feeding of the puppy. They can feed, groom, train and clean up after the puppy. They can let the puppy in and out of the crate. Most children in this age range can handle the puppy independently in a group obedience class (while a parent observes) and can continue as the puppy grows older and stronger. Behaviour specialist Teresa Lewin suggests that a child is old enough to handle a dog independently when the dog respects and obeys the child, when the child can read the dog, predict an impending problem and can intervene appropriately. This will occur at different ages and depends on the maturity of the child, the relationship the child has developed with the dog and the temperament and level of training of the dog.

By avoiding punishment, rewarding good behaviour, setting limits (for both kids and dogs), providing kid and dog zones using gates and or crates and involving kids in the care and training of the puppy from the beginning an extraordinary relationship can develop between kids and the dog that will bring joy to the whole family.


Living with Kids and Dogs Without Losing Your Mind – By Colleen Pelar (

Clicker Puppy DVD – Shows children training puppies using the clicker training method (

Family Paws Parent Education – resources for dog and baby/toddler safety (


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